There were a few brave boys and girls who even in 5th grade made it clear that they were a "couple." The one couple I recall best was Marty F. and Cheryl P. You could see their initials written everywhere--always, "MF + CP -- on sidewalks, desks, playground equipment, street signs, etc.
Last summer, 2011, I was walking with my dog through the old neighborhood. I thought about MF+CP and wondered if I could still find one. Looking at an old section of sidewalk on Riverdale Drive, I spotted the very faint mark, etched in the ancient concrete, "MF+CP."
Call it "personal archaeology."
Thursday, June 14, 2012
John and Barbara: Circa Flag Day, 1966
John and Barbara: Circa Flag Day, 1966
Today is June 14. This is Johnny K’s birthday. Flag Day. A
day around the time that Oxford School used to close for the summer. This is
about the last day of school, 46 years ago, and about Johnny K. and Barbara H.
It was an excellent last day of school. We sixth graders
would be leaving Oxford forever, heading to our respective junior highs, either
Adams or Smith, the following fall. Mr. Kodyk took us out to play softball.
Co-ed teams, boys must bat opposite hand. I remember hitting a triple to
right-center field. I remember my teammate, Jane P., smashing a ball way into
the outfield. After the game I made sure to say “nice hit.” Girls were getting
to be awesomely and painfully mysterious.
We didn’t do much for the rest of the afternoon. I think
Kodyk let us go to the library or generally wander through the halls. We
collected autographs from our classmates and former teachers. I still have most
of mine. Maybe I’ll scan and post one day.
I remember being in the library around 2 PM, sitting at a
table across from Vicki P. She was beautiful. I knew her a little. She wasn’t
in my class, but we were both in Mrs. Shay’s reading class (the librarian who
turned against me). We somehow started leg wrestling under the table and when I
say wrestling I mean me trying to feel as much of her legs with mine as I
could. It was hot.
Somehow I made it back to my seat in Kodyk’s room. And here’s
where the story of John and Barbara sort of starts and ends.
Ever since maybe first grade, all John’s buddies knew he “liked”
Barbara. It was just one of those things that we all knew, and we were pretty
sure she liked him too. This “liking” business doesn’t really mean much until 5th
or 6th grade. I mean, I had actually gone on a date with Wendy L.
when we were in the 2nd grade. Went skating at the Youth Center. Had
ice cream. Went home.
But it’s in the 5th and 6th grade
where a culture of boy-girl liking starts to emerge, a set of rules, driven
pretty much by the girls, who use it as a form of social control. Boys begin
trying to figure it out, like a sort-of-smart dog trying to behave so as to get
a cookie from his owner. There is much failure here. But we gradually start to “get”
the intricate web of notes, codes, hand signs, and various procedures that the
girls have developed.
For example, if a girl wants to know if a boy likes her, she’ll
send out scouts. The scouts won’t go directly to the boy in question, but to
his friends. They’ll ask things like “who does Joey like?” or they’ll hint
around – I know someone who likes someone you know!” Gradually, events and
procedures spin into smaller circles that reveal the actual details of who is
liking who.
On that last day of school, after an earlier series of
technicalities and red tape, a procedure was developed that would allow Johnny
K. to express his “like” for Barbara H. I played a key role. The plan was as
follows: since Safety Boys (including Johnny and me) always left the class 5
minutes early, it was possible for a message to be delivered to Barbara after
Johnny had left the room. So, when Johnny left, I would linger behind gathering
my various crap to take home. On my way out, after Johnny was well down the
hallway, I would have to cross the room to where Barbara sat and tell her who
it was that set Johnny’s heart on fire.
I followed procedures to a tee. I walked over to Barbara’s
desk and said, “It’s you!” She beamed.
I’m not sure, but I don’t believe they ever saw each other
again until 10th grade. At that time, they no longer knew each
other.
Happy birthday, John!
Tuesday, April 24, 2012
A Mystery, partially solved
Years ago, back in the 60s, I knew this kid from Boy Scouts.
He was a little twisted, but not outrageously so. Had this weird sense of
humor, tossed an occasional grasshopper on the charcoal grill, and taught me
that virtually any forest twig can be smoked like a cigarette. He hung around
with my clique in junior high and seemed like an ok fellah. Around 1968 he
moved away somewhere. I thought New Jersey, but now have discovered it was
elsewhere. Why did I just discover this?
I’d been searching for him on Google, entering various
search terms; his name followed by variations on “killed parents.” You see, back around 1970, word got around my
high school that the guy had shot his parents and that maybe it had something
to do with drugs or abuse. None of my friends seemed to know anything.
Around 1971 or 1972, he showed up again in my high school. “That’s
strange,” I thought.
I didn’t talk to him. He didn’t talk to me. We didn’t
acknowledge each other at all. I think only kids in school have the ability to
do this – to see old friends from years back and walk by them like they don’t
exist. I can understand his reluctance to talk, but not my own.
What had happened and how did he end up back in my high
school after having supposedly done this awful deed? Since the dawn of the
Internet, I would occasionally Google his name, maybe once every couple of
years. Nothing showed up until yesterday—a very brief and vague mention on some
community chat page about “whatever happened to …?”
More Googling. I found some newspaper articles. Here’s what
I learned.
Around the summer of 1970, police were called to his house.
Both his parents had been shot. He claimed a prowler had come in and done the
deed, a possibility quickly dismissed by the police. He was arrested and tried as an adult the
following year.
At that time, he testified that he saw his mother shoot his
father, and then he shot her. Eventually he was convicted of manslaughter for
having done so; but exonerated for the death of his father.
Placed in the custody of his grandparents while awaiting
sentencing, he returned to my high school, one year behind where he would have
been if none of this had happened. I graduated in 1972. He would have graduated
in 1973, but for the fact that the judge ruled he would have to report to
prison in January of that year. The prosecutor maintained that this young man
had “hoodwinked” the jury.
That’s all I know right now. I wonder how where he is and
how he’s doing. I hope he’s alright.
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